Divorce doesn’t have to be a war
Illinois divorcees may be interested in hearing about a trend of separated couples trying to get along with their ex-spouses. In may cases where minor children are involved, the couple wants to use a process called collaborative divorce. This process allows them to create agreements outside of court that suit the family’s specific needs.
Some experts say that the idea of being divorced and managing to get along is an idea that’s gaining popularity. There may be a lot of anger right after the divorce, but couples find that it fades with time, so they can get together at the holidays and attend events their children are participating in without conflicts. Does this process always work? No; there are times when one partner simply can’t get past the anger and frustration that may have ended the marriage. In other cases, a former spouse should be kept away because he or she is violent, has a drug problem or is mentally ill.
Statistics show that the number of divorced people in the United States is growing. The Census first started asking about divorce in 2008. At that time 9.3 percent of men and 11.9 percent of women had divorced in the past year. By 2012, those rates had risen to 9.8 percent for men and 12.4 percent for women.
Divorce is not uncommon in the United States, and many couples may wish to remain on good terms because it’s in the children’s best interests. An attorney may be able to help a couple create a divorce settlement that works for the family.
Source: USA Today, “Ex-spouses can get along — and not just for the holidays“, Sharon Jayson, December 23, 2013